Comments on: The Milkiest Way http://misplacedmama.blogsome.com/2006/08/05/milky-way/ words thru a woman.mama Thu, 28 Aug 2008 13:07:38 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=1.5.1-alpha by: Rebekah http://misplacedmama.blogsome.com/2006/08/05/milky-way/#comment-108 Thu, 10 Aug 2006 01:40:09 +0100 http://misplacedmama.blogsome.com/2006/08/05/milky-way/#comment-108 I can't say a WHOLE lot about breastfeeding vs. bottle feeding considering my son got a lot of formula. But I'm telling you, fighting to give him every ounce of breast milk for the 9 mos. I was able to nurse him was worth it a million times over. I totally understand that breastfeeding can be incredibly hard, and for a small number of people, not possible. But it makes my blood boil when I hear/see/read/talk to mothers who have decided not to even TRY breastfeeding before their child is born. The lack of information, and honestly, the lack of trying to do what's best for a child is astounding. Grrrr. I can’t say a WHOLE lot about breastfeeding vs. bottle feeding considering my son got a lot of formula. But I’m telling you, fighting to give him every ounce of breast milk for the 9 mos. I was able to nurse him was worth it a million times over. I totally understand that breastfeeding can be incredibly hard, and for a small number of people, not possible. But it makes my blood boil when I hear/see/read/talk to mothers who have decided not to even TRY breastfeeding before their child is born. The lack of information, and honestly, the lack of trying to do what’s best for a child is astounding. Grrrr.

]]> by: TulipGirl http://misplacedmama.blogsome.com/2006/08/05/milky-way/#comment-107 Tue, 08 Aug 2006 03:58:35 +0100 http://misplacedmama.blogsome.com/2006/08/05/milky-way/#comment-107 <strong>More WBW 2006 Blogging</strong> More people are blogging in support of World Breastfeeding Week and mamas and babies around the world. August 5: Echo of Love Misplaced Mama No Such Thing Color Me Red Five Minutes for Mom This Classical Life Life With An Axe Jo's Cafe (Another) Day i... More WBW 2006 Blogging

More people are blogging in support of World Breastfeeding Week and mamas and babies around the world. August 5: Echo of Love Misplaced Mama No Such Thing Color Me Red Five Minutes for Mom This Classical Life Life With An Axe Jo’s Cafe (Another) Day i…

]]> by: Leigh http://misplacedmama.blogsome.com/2006/08/05/milky-way/#comment-106 Tue, 08 Aug 2006 03:35:20 +0100 http://misplacedmama.blogsome.com/2006/08/05/milky-way/#comment-106 Andrea, Welcome to wise MaryBeth-dom. You will indeed become hooked. I'm so lucky that I get to hang with her in person (okay, not bragging or anything). :-) Leigh Andrea,
Welcome to wise MaryBeth-dom. You will indeed become hooked. I’m so lucky that I get to hang with her in person (okay, not bragging or anything). :-)
Leigh

]]> by: Andrea http://misplacedmama.blogsome.com/2006/08/05/milky-way/#comment-105 Mon, 07 Aug 2006 11:52:32 +0100 http://misplacedmama.blogsome.com/2006/08/05/milky-way/#comment-105 MB - Delurking here. I read your post while pumping at work for my 8 month old twins. I've been blessed with three healthy children all of which have received 100% mamas milk. People are amazed when I tell them that my twins have never received formula and I work 30hrs a week. I take that as an opportunity to educate the importance of BM and also about the supply &amp; demand factor - how the beginning is so critical in building your supply. It's so sad to me when I hear women saying that breastfeeding is gross, it makes me nurse in public more! We can all do our sisters a favor by exposing the public to natures way more often! I came across your blog a couple months ago and I am very intrigued! I would love to see a post on your childhood. Where did you grow up - what, if any, was your religious upbringing? Basically, what made you who you are today? You are an excellent writer with knowledge I can't even fathom - I love the insight you have given me on various topics thus far! Thank you for sharing! ~Andrea MB -
Delurking here. I read your post while pumping at work for my 8 month old twins. I’ve been blessed with three healthy children all of which have received 100% mamas milk. People are amazed when I tell them that my twins have never received formula and I work 30hrs a week. I take that as an opportunity to educate the importance of BM and also about the supply & demand factor - how the beginning is so critical in building your supply. It’s so sad to me when I hear women saying that breastfeeding is gross, it makes me nurse in public more! We can all do our sisters a favor by exposing the public to natures way more often!

I came across your blog a couple months ago and I am very intrigued! I would love to see a post on your childhood. Where did you grow up - what, if any, was your religious upbringing? Basically, what made you who you are today? You are an excellent writer with knowledge I can’t even fathom - I love the insight you have given me on various topics thus far!

Thank you for sharing!
~Andrea

]]> by: Beth http://misplacedmama.blogsome.com/2006/08/05/milky-way/#comment-104 Sun, 06 Aug 2006 22:41:08 +0100 http://misplacedmama.blogsome.com/2006/08/05/milky-way/#comment-104 Great post. I wrote a story on World Breast Feeding Week in the West Valley View. I came from a non-breastfeeding family and I have become the biggest advocate for it now... some people hardly believe that my 11-month-old hasn't had a drop of formula and I work full time. Women can make anything work, especially if it's for the good of our children, if we put our minds to it. Great post. I wrote a story on World Breast Feeding Week in the West Valley View. I came from a non-breastfeeding family and I have become the biggest advocate for it now… some people hardly believe that my 11-month-old hasn’t had a drop of formula and I work full time. Women can make anything work, especially if it’s for the good of our children, if we put our minds to it.

]]> by: Leigh http://misplacedmama.blogsome.com/2006/08/05/milky-way/#comment-103 Sat, 05 Aug 2006 17:46:12 +0100 http://misplacedmama.blogsome.com/2006/08/05/milky-way/#comment-103 PS I can't WAIT to see your shoes! Mmmmmm PS I can’t WAIT to see your shoes! Mmmmmm

]]> by: Leigh http://misplacedmama.blogsome.com/2006/08/05/milky-way/#comment-102 Sat, 05 Aug 2006 17:41:42 +0100 http://misplacedmama.blogsome.com/2006/08/05/milky-way/#comment-102 Divine, honest post, my friend. I am embarrased to admit that the same pool-side conversation happened years ago between me and my husband. I had never been exposed to bf'ing, I didn't understand it. Until I watched my friends nurture and nourish their babies at their breast. Until I really, really watched and listened and questioned my conventional beliefs...I am so far from that woman now. I don't even recognize her. Yet, I keep that memory so that I can relate to others, share my story, and perhaps encourage them to question also. Nursing Kaia exceeded all my expections, and then some. B, great insight also about women who have tried with their whole hearts and cannot BF. Like you've wisely said about our planned homebirth children, those babies benefited from their mother's loving intentions and desire to BF, from their mom's persistance, even if they didn't succeed. Thanks for this post, MB. And thanks for your gentle comments to the stranger in the mall. You never know.... Divine, honest post, my friend. I am embarrased to admit that the same pool-side conversation happened years ago between me and my husband. I had never been exposed to bf’ing, I didn’t understand it. Until I watched my friends nurture and nourish their babies at their breast. Until I really, really watched and listened and questioned my conventional beliefs…I am so far from that woman now. I don’t even recognize her. Yet, I keep that memory so that I can relate to others, share my story, and perhaps encourage them to question also.
Nursing Kaia exceeded all my expections, and then some.
B, great insight also about women who have tried with their whole hearts and cannot BF. Like you’ve wisely said about our planned homebirth children, those babies benefited from their mother’s loving intentions and desire to BF, from their mom’s persistance, even if they didn’t succeed.
Thanks for this post, MB. And thanks for your gentle comments to the stranger in the mall. You never know….

]]> by: Brooke http://misplacedmama.blogsome.com/2006/08/05/milky-way/#comment-101 Sat, 05 Aug 2006 16:45:22 +0100 http://misplacedmama.blogsome.com/2006/08/05/milky-way/#comment-101 This is one place I AM very prejudiced about parenting choices. I can't help it. We DO know better. And it breaks my heart when little ones are denied the opportunity to breastfeed. Satch nursed until 33 months old. It was hard sometimes, sure. And the looks I got were even vicious now and then. But it was worth every tired moment, every sweet milky smile. Especially with such an active kiddo, nursing gave us a chance to reconnect and for him to collect himself. It was an instinctive need met through to it's end. There is a belief floating around out there that infants need to fulfill certain innate urges (like suckling) in infancy or they spend the rest of their lives seeking a replacement...addictions, etc. If I can give my baby 12-36 months of myself so that he can be free of restless seeking for the rest of his life, it is a gift I gladly offer. I do have one thing to say, though, about women who can't breastfeed - and how I ache for them. Not only do they grieve the loss of breastfeeding if it would have been their choice, they worry about the health of their child - of withholding the optimum nutrition - AND they suffer in silence when women like me watch and possibly judge them. What can they do? Wear a t-shirt that says, "I'd breastfeed if I could." So I think it is great that you had that thought of empathy too, on the flip side of the critical voice. We never know. Thanks for writing this post and taking a stand and reminding everyone the importance of breastfeeding. I love your line about our little buddhas and our lotus blossoms! I'm going to keep that one in my treasure chest. B This is one place I AM very prejudiced about parenting choices. I can’t help it. We DO know better. And it breaks my heart when little ones are denied the opportunity to breastfeed. Satch nursed until 33 months old. It was hard sometimes, sure. And the looks I got were even vicious now and then. But it was worth every tired moment, every sweet milky smile. Especially with such an active kiddo, nursing gave us a chance to reconnect and for him to collect himself. It was an instinctive need met through to it’s end. There is a belief floating around out there that infants need to fulfill certain innate urges (like suckling) in infancy or they spend the rest of their lives seeking a replacement…addictions, etc. If I can give my baby 12-36 months of myself so that he can be free of restless seeking for the rest of his life, it is a gift I gladly offer.
I do have one thing to say, though, about women who can’t breastfeed - and how I ache for them. Not only do they grieve the loss of breastfeeding if it would have been their choice, they worry about the health of their child - of withholding the optimum nutrition - AND they suffer in silence when women like me watch and possibly judge them. What can they do? Wear a t-shirt that says, “I’d breastfeed if I could.” So I think it is great that you had that thought of empathy too, on the flip side of the critical voice. We never know.
Thanks for writing this post and taking a stand and reminding everyone the importance of breastfeeding. I love your line about our little buddhas and our lotus blossoms! I’m going to keep that one in my treasure chest.
B

]]> by: S http://misplacedmama.blogsome.com/2006/08/05/milky-way/#comment-100 Sat, 05 Aug 2006 03:33:18 +0100 http://misplacedmama.blogsome.com/2006/08/05/milky-way/#comment-100 I am always so sad when I see someone bottle feeding a baby. I remind myself it could be expressed breastmilk, or an adopted baby, or what have you. But I know that so often that isn't the case. A young woman soon to give birth told me she wouldn't breastfeed because she thought it was "gross". This made me so sad. M and I fought so hard to build our breastfeeding relationship, and it is one of the most beautiful things we do. I can't imagine doing it any other way ... can't imagine depriving her (or me) of the benefits -- physical and otherwise. I admit it would have been much more difficult if I'd had to go back to work, but I'm sure we would have figured it out. I tend to stare in mute, hopefully not too judgmental silence when I see a baby with a bottle. My heart just aches for that little baby, not getting what it so richly needs and deserves. In the end, I figure the best I can do is to just keep nursing my daughter ... let people see me doing it, talk to me about it. Just do it, and put it out there. It is my contribution -- small in many ways, but huge for me and my daughter. I am always so sad when I see someone bottle feeding a baby. I remind myself it could be expressed breastmilk, or an adopted baby, or what have you. But I know that so often that isn’t the case. A young woman soon to give birth told me she wouldn’t breastfeed because she thought it was “gross”. This made me so sad. M and I fought so hard to build our breastfeeding relationship, and it is one of the most beautiful things we do. I can’t imagine doing it any other way … can’t imagine depriving her (or me) of the benefits — physical and otherwise. I admit it would have been much more difficult if I’d had to go back to work, but I’m sure we would have figured it out.

I tend to stare in mute, hopefully not too judgmental silence when I see a baby with a bottle. My heart just aches for that little baby, not getting what it so richly needs and deserves.

In the end, I figure the best I can do is to just keep nursing my daughter … let people see me doing it, talk to me about it. Just do it, and put it out there. It is my contribution — small in many ways, but huge for me and my daughter.

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