Comments on: sex. (a rant i will regret posting no doubt) http://misplacedmama.blogsome.com/2008/05/04/sex-a-rant-i-will-regret-posting-no-doubt/ words thru a woman.mama Mon, 11 Aug 2008 00:36:56 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=1.5.1-alpha by: french panic http://misplacedmama.blogsome.com/2008/05/04/sex-a-rant-i-will-regret-posting-no-doubt/#comment-1104 Sat, 24 May 2008 23:56:13 +0100 http://misplacedmama.blogsome.com/2008/05/04/sex-a-rant-i-will-regret-posting-no-doubt/#comment-1104 Thank you for this. I am in my mid-thirties, with no children and no urge for them at the moment (but with older friends who have recently turned baby crazy, so who knows what will happen in the future) but you have answered many of the questions that my friends with babies have only answered with a "um, well, sex is.......different now." and then they smile weak smiles and change the subject. It is wonderful to read such honest words - and I looove that your man is teaching your kids the history of ska and dancehall! Hurray for music and dancing and loving! Thank you for this. I am in my mid-thirties, with no children and no urge for them at the moment (but with older friends who have recently turned baby crazy, so who knows what will happen in the future) but you have answered many of the questions that my friends with babies have only answered with a “um, well, sex is…….different now.” and then they smile weak smiles and change the subject.

It is wonderful to read such honest words - and I looove that your man is teaching your kids the history of ska and dancehall! Hurray for music and dancing and loving!

]]> by: jessamyn http://misplacedmama.blogsome.com/2008/05/04/sex-a-rant-i-will-regret-posting-no-doubt/#comment-1087 Mon, 12 May 2008 21:20:53 +0100 http://misplacedmama.blogsome.com/2008/05/04/sex-a-rant-i-will-regret-posting-no-doubt/#comment-1087 god. what can i say to this. i went through tears and sighs and closing my eyes when reading this post. "the way it has opened up regardless of how scared I am to be truly seen." this IS quality. this is breath takingly sexy. you know so much dear soul. god. what can i say to this. i went through tears and sighs and closing my eyes when reading this post. “the way it has opened up regardless of how scared I am to be truly seen.”
this IS quality. this is breath takingly sexy.
you know so much dear soul.

]]> by: jessica http://misplacedmama.blogsome.com/2008/05/04/sex-a-rant-i-will-regret-posting-no-doubt/#comment-1086 Fri, 09 May 2008 14:47:53 +0100 http://misplacedmama.blogsome.com/2008/05/04/sex-a-rant-i-will-regret-posting-no-doubt/#comment-1086 Thanks for your honesty. It can be hard to accept what is perfectly normal when you are bombarded by the "Yummy Mummy" staring at you from every mainstream media corner. Who the hell are these women wearing zipper pants and carrying an infant? Thanks for your honesty. It can be hard to accept what is perfectly normal when you are bombarded by the “Yummy Mummy” staring at you from every mainstream media corner. Who the hell are these women wearing zipper pants and carrying an infant?

]]> by: Lil http://misplacedmama.blogsome.com/2008/05/04/sex-a-rant-i-will-regret-posting-no-doubt/#comment-1085 Wed, 07 May 2008 16:34:55 +0100 http://misplacedmama.blogsome.com/2008/05/04/sex-a-rant-i-will-regret-posting-no-doubt/#comment-1085 bravo mary-beth, bravo! being a mom i can understand every fucking brilliant word, and if i had read this before i got pregnant, i don't know if i would have got pregnant. but the truth about the truth is that it's subjective and always better when you live it yourself instead of through someon else's experience. if current tv is going for reality, this is it baby! and your PPD, well i understand that all too well. i'm thinking about you as your resurrect yourself through each day until 'normal' returns. peace, Lil bravo mary-beth, bravo! being a mom i can understand every fucking brilliant word, and if i had read this before i got pregnant, i don’t know if i would have got pregnant. but the truth about the truth is that it’s subjective and always better when you live it yourself instead of through someon else’s experience. if current tv is going for reality, this is it baby!

and your PPD, well i understand that all too well. i’m thinking about you as your resurrect yourself through each day until ‘normal’ returns.

peace,
Lil

]]> by: bella http://misplacedmama.blogsome.com/2008/05/04/sex-a-rant-i-will-regret-posting-no-doubt/#comment-1084 Wed, 07 May 2008 15:17:52 +0100 http://misplacedmama.blogsome.com/2008/05/04/sex-a-rant-i-will-regret-posting-no-doubt/#comment-1084 I think truth is sexy. :) Because it is raw and real and vulnerable and gritty. Thank-you for speaking yours. I think truth is sexy. :)
Because it is raw and real and vulnerable and gritty.
Thank-you for speaking yours.

]]> by: e.darcy http://misplacedmama.blogsome.com/2008/05/04/sex-a-rant-i-will-regret-posting-no-doubt/#comment-1083 Wed, 07 May 2008 00:11:46 +0100 http://misplacedmama.blogsome.com/2008/05/04/sex-a-rant-i-will-regret-posting-no-doubt/#comment-1083 I think this is exactly what the 'viewers on the cusp to commit, marriage, and parenthood' need to hear/read/experience. It's real, and raw, and normal. It's everyday boring, draining, and something I fantasize to have. I think that more women need to be open and honest about life after baby 1...and baby 2 baby 3 and husband on top. no pun intended. Motherhood is it's own club-you all have your own secrets, your bodies have changed and...well, we need those details-the nitty gritty. I get a little soft spot for those mama's blogging--telling us what it's like to push your baby out, the fear of pooping on the table during. the sour milk and body odour. yeast infections and sleep deprivation. Most of them aren't willing to delve into their sex life, or lack of; they won't speak of the stitches, the appearance, the fear etc... No regrets about posting, please. Because the truths in your video diaries, of not having time to talk to the camera, of being interrupted, of having a drooling baby strapped to your chest-The video diary represents your sex life, and as much time as you had for it; in the bathroom, between napping and feeding, 1 minute here and there...well, isn't that the real quality-the honesty-the message that these viewers on the cusp should see? I think this is exactly what the ‘viewers on the cusp to commit, marriage, and parenthood’ need to hear/read/experience. It’s real, and raw, and normal. It’s everyday boring, draining, and something I fantasize to have. I think that more women need to be open and honest about life after baby 1…and baby 2 baby 3 and husband on top. no pun intended. Motherhood is it’s own club-you all have your own secrets, your bodies have changed and…well, we need those details-the nitty gritty. I get a little soft spot for those mama’s blogging–telling us what it’s like to push your baby out, the fear of pooping on the table during. the sour milk and body odour. yeast infections and sleep deprivation. Most of them aren’t willing to delve into their sex life, or lack of; they won’t speak of the stitches, the appearance, the fear etc… No regrets about posting, please. Because the truths in your video diaries, of not having time to talk to the camera, of being interrupted, of having a drooling baby strapped to your chest-The video diary represents your sex life, and as much time as you had for it; in the bathroom, between napping and feeding, 1 minute here and there…well, isn’t that the real quality-the honesty-the message that these viewers on the cusp should see?

]]> by: jouette http://misplacedmama.blogsome.com/2008/05/04/sex-a-rant-i-will-regret-posting-no-doubt/#comment-1082 Tue, 06 May 2008 22:15:33 +0100 http://misplacedmama.blogsome.com/2008/05/04/sex-a-rant-i-will-regret-posting-no-doubt/#comment-1082 i love your honesty and the pure clarity in your connection with you. it is strikingly air-suckingly stunningly beautiful. four words: write. that. book. dammit. :) i love your honesty and the pure clarity in your connection with you. it is strikingly air-suckingly stunningly beautiful.
four words: write. that. book. dammit. :)

]]> by: Sanne http://misplacedmama.blogsome.com/2008/05/04/sex-a-rant-i-will-regret-posting-no-doubt/#comment-1081 Tue, 06 May 2008 21:01:53 +0100 http://misplacedmama.blogsome.com/2008/05/04/sex-a-rant-i-will-regret-posting-no-doubt/#comment-1081 Brilliant, brilliant, brilliant rant. Brilliant, brilliant, brilliant rant.

]]> by: radical mama http://misplacedmama.blogsome.com/2008/05/04/sex-a-rant-i-will-regret-posting-no-doubt/#comment-1080 Tue, 06 May 2008 14:36:30 +0100 http://misplacedmama.blogsome.com/2008/05/04/sex-a-rant-i-will-regret-posting-no-doubt/#comment-1080 I loved this post. Every word. John and I generally return to our regular sex life within a few weeks of a new baby, the thing that annoys me is the very idea of a standard. What's normal is what's normal for YOU. And that will be different for everybody and that's okay. Sex is different after parenthood. It just is. For me, it's not worse or better. It just is what it is at this moment in my life and I like it that way. I loved this post. Every word.

John and I generally return to our regular sex life within a few weeks of a new baby, the thing that annoys me is the very idea of a standard. What’s normal is what’s normal for YOU. And that will be different for everybody and that’s okay.

Sex is different after parenthood. It just is. For me, it’s not worse or better. It just is what it is at this moment in my life and I like it that way.

]]> by: meremortal http://misplacedmama.blogsome.com/2008/05/04/sex-a-rant-i-will-regret-posting-no-doubt/#comment-1079 Tue, 06 May 2008 04:35:49 +0100 http://misplacedmama.blogsome.com/2008/05/04/sex-a-rant-i-will-regret-posting-no-doubt/#comment-1079 sex? motherhood? doesn't.compute. after ten months, i believe we've had sex about 7 times. not only are the hormones out of whack with breastfeeding, but a 3rd degree tear takes a looooong time to heal. ouch. you are sexy no matter what - you've always been. but your rawness in describing the transformation of sex on the timeline of parenthood is spot on and so vivid. and ya know what's really sexy? a mama reading something like this from another mama that emits laughter and head nods throughout. xoxo sex? motherhood? doesn’t.compute.
after ten months, i believe we’ve had sex about 7 times.
not only are the hormones out of whack with breastfeeding, but a 3rd degree tear takes a looooong time to heal. ouch.
you are sexy no matter what - you’ve always been. but your rawness in describing the transformation of sex on the timeline of parenthood is spot on and so vivid.
and ya know what’s really sexy? a mama reading something like this from another mama that emits laughter and head nods throughout.
xoxo

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